Monday, November 7, 2011

Good Habits

I am trying to establish the habit, both for the littles and myself, of starting out our day with a glass (or small plastic cup, in their case) of water before we have anything else. It's hard for me in the cooler months, because I love to start my day with tea (if I get up before them, I will sometimes have a cup of hot water with lemon and honey, but it's too hard to explain to them how that is different from tea and therefore not a double standard), and hard for them because ever since they started drinking anything more than breastmilk they have loved orange-juice-and-milk to begin their day.

But we're persevering. The thought of that hot tea waiting for me at the end of my glass of water, and the OJ&M for them keeps us glugging. And for me, the thought of the health benefits for all of us are a reward in themselves. The littles, of course, don't care so much about that, this is just another of Mamma's weird notions (like washing hands after we use the toilet, not throwing clothes out of the dresser drawers, and not getting out of bed at 5 in the morning. Gosh, Mom) that they have to endure. My hope, of course, is that the habit gets so ingrained that it sticks when they are grown, just like brushing teeth.

As for how this relates to writing ... well, I set myself a goal to finish at least one, preferably two mss in November. That means writing every day. Often, to be perfectly honest, I don't feel like sitting down and writing. Just like preferring to drink my tea instead of having my water first, as soon as I sit down to write, I think of the cleaning, the baking, the sewing, the reading ... everything else that I'm not doing in order to write. And while I can do that afterward, it often feels like I should be doing it first.

The first sip of water is the hardest. After that, the rest of the glass follows naturally. And that first sentence, staring at a page without a shred of inspiration? So hard. But once I force my fingers to start typing (or writing, if I'm working in my notebook), the rest comes more easily. Last night I had set myself an hour of writing before watching Once Upon A Time. At first, it was not easy. But by the time 8:00 rolled around, I didn't really want to stop - I kept the computer on my lap and typed during commercial breaks (very interesting mental exercise, btw, trying to switch my perspective back and forth between tv show and ms!).

And while it isn't always the most fun to drink a glass of water first thing in the morning, or to write a few paragraphs every day, even (and especially) on the days when inspiration is far flown from me, the habits I'm installing will, I hope, last forever, and have marvelous results for the rest of my life.

What are some daily habits you try to set for yourself, and do any of them help you when it comes to establishing routine for writing?

7 comments:

  1. I start the day off with a Diet Coke. I need to change that, I know. It's good you are writing every day. I'm even more impressed you can write during commercial breaks. Interruptions drive me crazy. It seems like once I interrupt my train of thought I'm pretty much done for the day. Good luck with your schedule.

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  2. I'm with you on the water. I just started doing that about a year ago, and it's amazing how necessary it seems, that bit of water to start the day. Now I can't get going without it!

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  3. I'm with you. You can't just wait until you feel like it to write. When I'm feeling hugely unmotivated, I tell myself "Just fifteen minutes." Usually by the time 15 minutes rolls around, I've found my groove and the 15 minutes becomes an hour or more. And if not, that's okay because I really tried.

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  4. Kirsten - I think I developed my ability to write in between other things in college, when I would write for ten minutes, then take a break to do homework for ten minutes, then go back to the writing. It was the only thing that kept me from losing my mind over College Algebra and Intro to Genetics!

    Joanne - I'm hoping it soon becomes a necessary habit for me, too, instead of something I force myself to do!

    Connie - It really is more a matter of finding your groove, instead of waiting for inspiration, isn't it? Good way of looking at it.

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  5. Great post! I hate housework--super, double-scoop hate it--but I've found Fly Lady on the web. What a gift! :) Fly Lady teaches that you can do anything in 15 minutes. So to reiterate what Connie said, I tell myself I can clean 'just fifteen minutes,' and then I usually find my groove. It helps when littles think cleaning is FUN. :) Writing often starts the same way . . .

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  6. Jessica - I love the results of housework, but I would be just as happy if I never had to sweep another floor. You're right, though, it does help when my littles come along behind me, giggling at the fun "game."

    (Ironically enough, just as I was typing this comment, "A Spoonful of Sugar" came on my Pandora station. HA!)

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  7. I tried to start a habit of writing first thing in the morning last winter, but it's devolved into only just journaling, and even then every entry tends to be primarily a) what I dreamt, and/or b) a running commentary on whatever's on the clock radio. The entries get to be so predictable that I sometimes run down a checklist of all commonly recurring journal-entry contents and purposely throw them all in to the entry and joke that this is how I know the entry is complete.

    But lately with, first, it being darker in the mornings (which makes it harder to get up), and now with the time change meaning the KIDS get up sooner, I've been running out of time to write in the morning ANYWAY. So it's a habit that hasn't really GOTTEN me anywhere, and I might want to work on some new ones...

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